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Xavier Spencer, IMFT, CST
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Over the course of life, many factors—such as stress, illness, trauma, aging, disability, depression, medication, social stigma, or a negative self-concept—can affect a person’s sexual response. These challenges are more common than many realize, yet they can feel deeply isolating. My role is to help you address the barriers impacting desire, arousal, orgasm, and intimacy, so you can move toward a more satisfying and pleasurable sexual life.
About Me
As a research-informed clinician specializing in couples, families, and sexual health, I am dedicated to helping individuals, couples, and families strengthen their relationships, navigate challenges, and find greater balance and fulfillment.
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For nearly 20 years, I have supported children, adults, couples, and families in mastering their adaptational challenges, emerging more resourceful and hopeful while maintaining harmony and leadership in their lives. My overarching approach to psychotherapy is grounded in a resilience framework, emphasizing growth, adaptability, and the capacity to thrive even in the face of adversity.
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Sexual Health Expertise
Many people find it difficult to discuss sexual health concerns. Whether you are experiencing issues with desire, arousal, orgasm, sexual discomfort, or intimacy, I provide a safe, compassionate space to explore these concerns. I specialize in treating male and female sexual matters, sexual dysfunctions, sexual disorders, and gender dysphoria, with attention to how medical conditions, aging, disability, gender identity, and relationship dynamics affect sexual well-being.
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I also bring expertise in addressing atypical sexual behaviors and practices, sexual compulsivity, and criminal sexual behavior. In my practice, I collaborate with interdisciplinary teams of endocrinologists, gynecologists, and urologists to heighten treatment outcomes and provide comprehensive care.
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Education & Training
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Master of Science in Marital and Family Therapy, Northwestern University, Center for Applied Psychological and Family Studies at The Family Institute.
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Clinical training at The Family Institute’s Betty T. Harries Family Child Clinic in Evanston and Chicago.
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Advanced clinical training in Sex Therapy, University of Michigan Sexual Health Program.
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Academic training in Substance Abuse and Co-Occurring Disorders, University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA).
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Certified Sex Therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).
Recognition
In 2008, I was honored to receive the Minority Fellowship Award from the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) in recognition of my commitment to advancing marriage and family therapy education, research, and practice.​
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My Commitment
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I am committed to honoring and serving the full spectrum of human sexuality with compassion, evidence-based care, and respect. My mission is to empower clients to strengthen their connections, embrace their identities, and live with confidence and fulfillment in both their personal and relational lives.
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